The Tyranny of Giving

By Weldon Tisdale, Chaplain

There is a wonder about Christmas as well as a tyranny. There is a wondrous briskness in the air and a rosy glow on the cheeks of early shoppers. There seems a purposefulness in those in the stores, though the planned buying lists of “Thanksgiving Friday” shoppers disintegrate into a mad frenzy by December 24th. Just grab at anything that Uncle Fritz can smile at when he unwraps it, even though no one can think of anything he really wants or needs.

The season also imposes its tyranny on many of us. Instead of being able to give out of thoughtfulness and love, we often give because it is “expected.” I heard of one couple who had 85 people they felt obligated to remember with a gift. No wonder the joy of giving falls away to a sort of panicked despair.

So, the question I ponder is – Can we give cheerfully and thoughtfully this Christmas?

Only through cheerful giving can we emulate the great “gift” of Christmas, Jesus Christ. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16, KJV

Jesus Christ the true “gift” gave Himself completely to and for us. While giving is important, it should not overwhelm or overly stress us during this season when Christ should be the focal point.

And so, God gave, not reluctantly or because He was forced by popular opinion, but because He loved. No store-bought gift would do for those He held dear; it must be home-made. Nor was His choice of “gift” an optional trinket for the “man or woman who has everything.” He gave the only possession that we did not have and really needed. He did not give a thing or object. He gave Himself – a costly “gift” in the extreme. A gift so expensive that many never comprehend His true worth in their lives. Herein lies a Christmas mystery. Only by opening the first “gift” may we truly comprehend the real significance of giving and receiving. May this season not capture us in its tyranny but release us in an eager cheerfulness to give.

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Employee Appreciation Campaign

It is the time of year we all count our blessings –family, friends, our health. It is also the time of year that we say “thank you” to the employees of Trinity Woods. As you may know, our policy at Trinity Woods does not allow employees to accept individual gifts or tips throughout the year, but this time of the year, we actively reach out to our community and solicit donations for the Employee Appreciation Fund. This year the residents of Trinity Woods are leading the charge and inviting you to express your gratitude and give thanks to those special people who are here each day to serve.

It’s not too late. Please consider a gift to express your gratitude for the wonderful Trinity Woods Team.

Come Enjoy Owens Park!

We recently dedication the newest outdoor space on the Trinity Woods campus, Owens Park. This area was made possible with a gift from the Owens Family and many others who donated to provide trees and benches. This park features a lighted walking trail, fountain and in the near future will have outdoor fitness equipment. Owens Park is not only a blessing to current residents and their families, but will be a blessing for many years to come.

December STARS Employee of the Month

Mandie Marler- LPN, Holliman Center

» Start Date: August 2013
» Born and Raised: St. Lucia, Caribbean
» Education: Connors State College
» Wanted to be as a Kid: Veterinarian
» Favorite Sport: Soccer
» One Meal Forever: Tacos
» Described by Friends: Funny but reserved
» Hobbies: Reading
» Favorite Holiday: Christmas
» Favorite Quote: “We got this!”
» Family Recipe: Curry Chicken
» Collects: Sunglasses
» Fun Fact: Plays the piano
» What her supervisor says: “There is no doubt that the residents are treated like family when Mandie is
working. Mandie goes above and beyond to ensure her residents are doing well, whether they are in the
hospital or in our Health Center. Mandie is always willing to lend a helping hand to ensure her team’s success.” – Britani Chappell, Director of Assisted Living

Trinity Woods Seeks Board Nominations

Trinity Woods is a mission driven organization and has one purpose. Our reason for being is clear – we serve the Trinity Woods family in the spirit of Christ. Every year we search for people who are willing to dedicate themselves to advancing our mission by serving on the Board of Directors.

Board members are expected to commit their time, talent, and treasure:
• The time commitment involves preparing for and participating in a Board monthly meeting.
• The talents of the Board member are called upon as they off er their expertise through involvement in
committee work.
• The treasure acknowledges the responsibility of Board members to include Trinity Woods as they
make decisions about their charitable giving.

We encourage the Trinity Woods community to submit nominations to the Governance Committee. If you wish to nominate someone, you must fill out the Nomination Form and submit it by Friday, December 16, 2022. Every nominee that is submitted will be reviewed. If they are not selected for this year, the committee maintains a list of prospective Board members for future consideration.

To receive a Nomination Form, contact Heidi Garrett, at 918-346-6671 or

Join Us for Christmas in the Woods

It’s the most wonderful time of the year…Christmas in the Woods! The trees will be lit, the halls will be decked, and hot chocolate will be steaming. Mark your calendar for Thursday, December 8th from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. It will be a night of good holiday fun.

“This year’s Christmas in the Woods has some exciting additions,” said Irene Brown, Life Enrichment Coordinator. “Also, everyone’s favorite, amazing food from the Trinity Woods chefs. There will be so much for everyone to see, taste, experience and enjoy!”

Over the years this has become a tradition for everyone – residents, families, employees. Christmas in the Woods is a campus-wide celebration. In addition to great food at several venues, horse drawn carriages, live music, and the beautiful living nativity, there will also be a candy shop, photos with Santa and Mrs. Claus, and a huge Christmas train display!

“This event is the core of who we are as a community and brings everyone together is a special way,” said Steve Dickie, CEO. “Christmas in the Woods is a wonderful way to expand your Christmas traditions.”

To purchase an admission wristband, visit the Crestwood Concierge or Holliman Center Receptionist –$12 members, $15 guests, and $7 children ages 3-12. Children under 3 are free. Wristbands will be charged to your member account. For more information call 918.346.6614.

December Issue of The Trail Mix

In This Issue:

It’s Christmas Time at Trinity Woods
Seasons Greetings! You’re invited to Christmas in the Woods. Our annual holiday tradition that puts everyone in the Christmas spirit. This year the event is scheduled for Thursday, December 8th.

Trinity Woods is seeking Board Nominations.

We also announce the December STARS Employees of the Month – Mandie!

December Wellness
There are several special services to highlight the holiday – Christmas Service hosted by Boston Avenue and New Year’s Eve Service. Additionally this year brings lots of opportunities for music and holiday tunes. Mark your calendar for all the events, from sing-a-longs to piano concerts you will not want to miss anything this month.

New Neighbors
Meet Bill and Aneta!

December Availability
We are featuring the Magnolia floor plan in Crestwood. Click here for more information!

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